In this day and age of technology such as Facebook, My Space and Twitter, people can add strangers who they don’t know from Adam and ‘befriend’ them, building cyber-relationships.
Cyber-friends turn into genuine friends you think you know quite well.
The problem with having friends in any of these mediums is the ease with which you can delete these so-called friends when they get sick of you, or in my case, you disagree with them on a topic. If you don’t want to be privy to them disagreeing with you it’s easy enough just to hit delete and wipe that friend, and a history of posts forever.
It reminds me not to get too attached to people I have ‘met’ online in case they decide they don’t like me anymore or don’t want me on their friends list. Oh the net is so fickle.
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I want to ask who would give you the boot for such a small thing, but I’m guessing you don’t want to make it public.
This troubles me in some ways because it shows that people don’t see each other as people through Internet-based communication. It seems to say that the relationships have less value than others, but I guess they probably do to some people.
My husband would say that anyone who would ditch you for disagreeing probably isn’t a person you’d want to really get to know any better anyway. He’s like that. ;-)
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I want to ask who would give you the boot for such a small thing, but I’m guessing you don’t want to make it public.
This troubles me in some ways because it shows that people don’t see each other as people through Internet-based communication. It seems to say that the relationships have less value than others, but I guess they probably do to some people.
My husband would say that anyone who would ditch you for disagreeing probably isn’t a person you’d want to really get to know any better anyway. He’s like that. ;-)
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Ooo, I should mention that as someone who met her perfect (for her) husband as a penpal, I find on-line or distance relationships very, very real.
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Ooo, I should mention that as someone who met her perfect (for her) husband as a penpal, I find on-line or distance relationships very, very real.
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I see it the same way you and your husband do. I met Yasu through ICQ (chat program) and all the people I’ve ever met online I value their friendship even if I never get to meet them, well yet anyway.
The particular person I have actually met once at a seminar in Perth, through mutual friends.
I am thinking that myself, you are right, what kind of a ‘friend’ are they if they can just drop you for disagreeing with them?
It’s a strange world we live in. I have heard alot recently about relationships that are ended with text messages. I thought that was really inpersonal. At least if you have a problem with someone you should tell them why.
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I see it the same way you and your husband do. I met Yasu through ICQ (chat program) and all the people I’ve ever met online I value their friendship even if I never get to meet them, well yet anyway.
The particular person I have actually met once at a seminar in Perth, through mutual friends.
I am thinking that myself, you are right, what kind of a ‘friend’ are they if they can just drop you for disagreeing with them?
It’s a strange world we live in. I have heard alot recently about relationships that are ended with text messages. I thought that was really inpersonal. At least if you have a problem with someone you should tell them why.
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I was dropped on FB by someone recently. It was someone I’d met in the real world. A discussion arose from something that had appeared in the UK press some months ago, regarding a company whose publicity material I considered predudicial against a particular bunch of people. Turns out this woman, a freelance journalist, knew the people who were responsible for it and we ‘discussed’ it.
She made a pointless comment on my FB page which tied in with what we’d been talking about, but had nothing to do with the update I’d made, so I deleted it. She deleted me a month later. No great loss – looking back I see she was a complete bore!
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I was dropped on FB by someone recently. It was someone I’d met in the real world. A discussion arose from something that had appeared in the UK press some months ago, regarding a company whose publicity material I considered predudicial against a particular bunch of people. Turns out this woman, a freelance journalist, knew the people who were responsible for it and we ‘discussed’ it.
She made a pointless comment on my FB page which tied in with what we’d been talking about, but had nothing to do with the update I’d made, so I deleted it. She deleted me a month later. No great loss – looking back I see she was a complete bore!
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Excuse my spelling mistake – preducial. I must check typos more carefully!
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Excuse my spelling mistake – preducial. I must check typos more carefully!
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No worries Em, there’s no spelling police here :)
I think it’s a really petty thing to do. I messaged her about it and told her so but of course she didn’t respond. I should have realised that it would happen sooner or later, she had been talking on FB about how she had to delete some former friends and recently made a new account but with the same name.
It’s definitely made me reflect on what kind of person she is, and feel that I’m better off without her. She probably did me a favour.
Thanks for your comments, Orchid, and Emsk :)
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No worries Em, there’s no spelling police here :)
I think it’s a really petty thing to do. I messaged her about it and told her so but of course she didn’t respond. I should have realised that it would happen sooner or later, she had been talking on FB about how she had to delete some former friends and recently made a new account but with the same name.
It’s definitely made me reflect on what kind of person she is, and feel that I’m better off without her. She probably did me a favour.
Thanks for your comments, Orchid, and Emsk :)
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