Kelly Azuma

7 years ago today Yasu and I got married at the registry office in Perth. My mum came in for a few minutes to be a witness and left just as quickly in a dour mood, while my sister waited in the car for my mum.

We had 2 uni friends there, one were witnessing and doing the photography.

Even though my family live in Perth, none of them came because I chose to wear a blue wedding dress – my then favourite colour – instead of white. I hate white, and I still do. I never wanted to be the same as everyone else, I like colour and so does Yasu, and I wanted to remember my wedding day wearing the colour I love, not wearing a colour I hate.

I also didn’t want a big wedding (which further grated on my family) because I’m quite shy when it comes down to it, and walking down an aisle with people looking at me is not my idea of fun – in fact it really made me feel anxious, so that’s why we decided to do it at the registry office, which was the best choice.

We had our photo’s taken in the Japanese gardens at Perth Zoo, and then we went out for Chinese with our Singaporean friends.

We stayed at Burswood Resort Casino on our wedding night, and then just over a year later we took our 1 month honeymoon in Japan.

I’m proud to say that we did it our way, and we are still happy with how the day went. I love my photo’s, I love the dress I wore, and I love Yasu more than ever.

Now, 7 years later, looking back on that day – how young we were but so full of optimism. I don’t feel so young anymore, in fact today I’m 32. We got married on my 25th birthday. But I still feel that sense of optimism about the future.

Yasu has stood by me through major illnesses for the past 7 years, he’s been my #1 supporter. He’s stood by me through the thick and thin, the better and worse. We’ve had our fights, our make-ups, our happy times and our sad times.

Through it all though, he has been my rock. He continues to encourage me, support me, love me for who I am and all my good and bad points equally.

I love him even though sometimes he makes me mad or sad, I love him because he works hard every day for our life. I love him because he understands me better than anyone else. I love him because he’s unique, because he loves my cooking, and because I have never been so close to anyone as I am to Yasu.

I try to be a good wife, though I’m not sure if I am. But I love him for all his plusses and minuses, I love looking after him and I try to be his soft place to fall when he comes home from a hard day at work. No matter what the circumstance, I always try to view him through compassionate eyes. His joys are my joys, his sadness my sadness.

I didn’t know when I got married that every day after our wedding day I would fall deeper and deeper in love with Yasu. I didn’t realise that I would love him more and more each day, but I do. Our relationship is still a learning experience every day, but I’m so grateful that I found Yasu. I think he’s the most amazing person I have ever met, and he’s truly my best friend.

It doesn’t feel like 7 years, it’s just gone by like zippity zip. I wonder if the next 7 years will be this fast? I was the girl who never wanted to get married, and now here I am, married for 7 years already, it feels surreal.

Lady Nada

Lady Nada will help you

• Develop true self-mastery
• Protect Children
• Empower and guide teachers, ministers, and healers
• Bring justice into life’s more challenging events

Just by calling her name you will feel her loving prescence. Lady Nada is an ascended master, who belongs to the base chakra – red. Nada is a symbol for the coming age, and directs healing to the mankind on earth. Her symbol is a pink rose.

Lady Nada’s message is one of peace and brotherhood, devotion, humility, selflessness, service, and wisdom born of love. She reminds all humans that they are a ray of pure, unconditional love. She believes it is very important to remember that you are not your personality, you are not your habitual behaviours, and you are not the sum of your experiences. You are a spiritual entity, a divine spark of love.

Lady Nada helps individuals see the truth. She will help you reconnect with the essence of who and what you really are. Separateness is not a reality, and it is the illusion created by our beliefs. Beloved Lady Nada will show you the truth and help you embrace your personality self rather than make it an adversary. No matter what the issue, love is always the answer. Nada reminds us that whatever we resist becomes stronger, and whatever we embrace and love dissolves into the nothingness from which it came.

In her last incarnation, she was the priestess in the the Temple of Love. Nada often works with the rose as a symbol of enlightenment. Just as a rose starts as a tiny bud, slowly unfurling into a magnificent flower, so each spirit unfolds in its own way into a magnificent being of light.

Nada asks you the following questions:

• Where do you want to focus your energy?

• Do you want to use your energy to focus on your feelings of separation and deepen your connection to the personality self?

• Or would you rather use your energy to strengthen your ability to love and, in the process, deepen your connection to your spirit?

Lady Nada is an incredible loving and powerful being to have in your life. If you wuld like her to work with you on a regular basis, light a deep red, rose-scented candle each day and invite her into your life. She will help you in surprising and miraculous ways. As the rose is her symbol, a vase of pink roses would also help bring her into your life.

It’s been stressful at home these past few days, not for me but for Yasu as he’s been having a hard time at work. His boss is being overly demanding, and another problem is that due to the shortage of Australians who want to work, his boss has had to contract workers from the Phillipines to come over and work. This creates a problem for Yasu as they can’t understand his accent, and they never follow his orders. When they can’t understand Yasu they just say “yes ok” and go off and do something completely different to what they were told. Yasu is the supervisor and has to get things ready by a deadline but he’s finding it extremely difficult to deal with at the moment.

At night he has been coming home and having anxiety attacks where he can’t breathe, indigestion, nausea, and vomiting. It is really hard for me to see him like this, as he’s usually so strong and doesn’t let things bother him. I’ve been trying to look out for him as much as i can, and i’ve stopped nagging him to do stuff because i think too much stress on the home-front could send him over the edge. I just want to make a safe place for him to come home to and feel comfortable, and hopefully his mental state will get back to normal.

I racked my brains trying to think of something else i could do for Yasu, and i thought of getting him a copy of Shukan Bunshun weekly magazine from Japan. I have a lady that i had bought it from on ebay in the past, so i contacted her again and asked her to send me over the most recent copy. Yasu loves reading Japanese novels but had read all of the ones he had bought, and for weeks had nothing to read on his lunch break.

It arrived yesterday and i gave it to Yasu when he got home. He was very happy to receive it and over the duration of the night i noticed he was less sick than usual. This morning when he got up he was very chirpy, which was unusual as lately his mood has been sombre before work. When he left i peeked at him out the window only to see the precious Shukan Bunshun cradled under his arm like a treasure.

Shukan Bunshun (週間文春) with Love

When i called him at work on his lunch break to see how he was doing he sounded much happier than usual, and had lots of stories to tell me that he’d read in the magazine. I am amazed at what paper with words on it can do for mental health! If only i had thought of this sooner. Maybe it’s keeping his mind of things at work and giving him something to look forward to. It’s a small comfort that doesn’t cost much, but somehow makes a world of difference. If i could take out a subscription for him i would but it would be so expensive, i’ve just looked into it and it’s $460.00 a year plus postage. I may think about it as a possible christmas present though. Though through ebay i pay $17 per magazine (including post) and that works out to $884.00 so it’s definitely cheaper in the long run!

Anyway, i’m glad that a 週間文春 can go someway towards soothing some hurts for my love.